Parenting Mistakes in 2026 No One Talks About | Skill Up – Episode 16 ft. Iram Binti Safia
Parenting today looks very different from what it used to be. In 2026, most parents are doing their best — yet many children are growing up emotionally confused, spiritually disconnected, and mentally overwhelmed.
In Skill Up Episode 16, we had a deep and honest conversation with Iram Binti Safia about parenting — not just from one angle, but from every direction possible. This episode covers parenting from the very beginning of a child’s life till adulthood, from A to Z, without skipping the uncomfortable truths.
We spoke about Islamic parenting, but not in a textbook way. We connected it with modern psychology, emotional development, and neuroscience, showing how Islam already addresses what science is discovering today.
This episode talks about the mistakes parents don’t realize they’re making — emotional absence, over-praising, lack of boundaries, screen addiction, parenting driven by ego and social comparison, and raising children without spiritual grounding in a hyper-digital world.
We also discussed how a child’s brain develops, how early emotional wounds are formed, and how parenting styles directly shape confidence, behavior, and faith. From newborn attachment to teenage rebellion, from discipline to compassion, from love to responsibility — nothing was left untouched.
This conversation is for: • Parents who genuinely care but feel confused • Future parents who want to do better • Teachers, caregivers, and mentors • Anyone who wants to understand children beyond “good” and “bad”
This is not about blaming parents. This is about becoming conscious.
Because before we raise children, we must raise ourselves.
• Parenting is not control, it’s responsibility • Children learn more from behavior than advice • Emotional neglect hurts more than strictness • Love without limits creates entitlement • Discipline without mercy creates fear • A calm parent raises a calm child • Islamic tarbiyah and neuroscience align more than we think
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Chapters
00:00 highlights 01:21 intro 03:11 what led you to be a parenting coach and life coach 06:26 role of parents in upbringing of children 09:08 whn does parenting start 14:27 is parenting tough in modern age Role of social media and other things 19:00 is Parenting : giving only direction to children 21:14 misconceptions as a parents 25:20 struggles in parents 26:50 how to mould the behaviour of a child as psychologically spiritually mentally physically in all aspects of 33:35 parenting is more knowing aboutyour self thn as knowing the child
34:50 screen and parenting
43:20 solutions and screens in parenting 51:30 how to fill gap between child whether children or adults gen z 55:00 how to build emotional intelligence in children and how it effects children 58:20 how. To handle parents ego 01:00:00 As a parent we hve to work on our self not children 01:04:00 why dont we train parents before marriage 1:09:00 what kind of hope mam iram hve by current gen 1:14:00 concussion
