Garrett: @koldkwan
Garrett is an Asian American rapped based out of Boston who was also part of the Chang Retreat cohort of December 2023. We had a really awesome conversation about his journey to become a rapper, dating preferences, our experiences as Asian guys and more!
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Timestamps
0:00 - Who Is Kold Kwan
1:23 - Chang used to bboy LOL
1:50 - How Kwan transitioned from boy to rapping
2:38 - Kwan is one of few Asians in rap circle
3:30 - How Chang knows Kwan
4:48 - Kwan keeps in touch with Chang Retreat members
5:45 - Kwanâs online dating leveled up from Changâs photos
6:25 - Asian guys tends not to see potential in themselves
7:00 - Dating is hard for Asian men
7:52 - Why Chang hosts a retreat
8:46 - Dating isnât the only part of masculinity
9:26 - Most Asian guys just want a girlfriend
10:05 - Models by Mark Manson
11:36 - Manosphere & Red Pill
14:40 - Toxic girls & guys (you attract who you are)
16:12 - Kwanâs experience with toxic girl
17:24 - Green flag for girlfriend is healthy relationship with family
18:03 - Kwan raps about personal topics
18:45 - Balancing growth with authenticity
20:18 - Does being Asian hinder Kwan in rapping career
21:05 - What demographic of Kwanâs followers
24:12 - Kwanâs been rapping since 2010
25:34 - Chang thinks Kwan should rap about AMBW niche
26:43 - Kwan thinks it might be risky to talk about AMBW
28:06 - Chang believes AMBW rapping would be positive uplifting vibes
29:42 - Rich Brian example of going viral
30:12 - Kwan made AMBW Tik Tok
30:52 - Kwan uniquely positioned to be champion of AMBW
34:06 - Kwan concerned about the perception of this type of content
34:30 - Polarizing and getting hates is part of the process of growth
35:32 - Why Kwan should pursue AMBW content
38:33 - Kwanâs come up story matters a lot to him
39:50 - Kwan respects late bloomer rappers
40:23 - Slow vs fast growth as a rapper / content creator
43:56 - Kwanâs future project plans
44:56 - The power of social media
45:12 - Asian parents & dating black girls
47:40 - Kwanâs experience dating asian vs black girls
48:48 - Kwan had a lot of rizz during the Chang retreat
49:35 - Chang's dating coach experience
51:10 - Positive experiences led to true confidence
53:20 - Text game vs cold approach
54:35 - Online dating & flakiness
56:10 - Chang and Kwan used to be simpsâŚ
56:34 - Kwanâs heartbreak story with Colombian girl
59:22 - The problem with pedastalizing women
1:00:25 - Kwan meets Colombian girl after talking online for one year
1:01:20 - Dating younger girls
1:02:11 - Kwanâs heartbreak led to self-compassion & growth
1:03:21 - Lifeâs and relationships are transient
1:05:03 - Chang makes videos to help guys develop abundance mindset
1:05:33 - Asian men have a self-love problem
1:07:30 - Asian guys don't receive positive affirmations while growing up
1:08:10 - Asian guys face a lot of negative perceptions
1:08:58 - Why cold approach is OP as an Asian guy
1:10:03 - Younger generation of Asian men doing well
1:10:26 - Why Gen Z Asian guys have it easier
1:10:50 - Most older Asian can't pull of Gen Z look
1:11:21 - Kwan has nice Gen Z Asian hair
1:12:16 - If itâs too good to be true, be careful (e.g. dating in Columbia)
1:13:25 - Latinas love Asian guys
1:15:18 - Changâs cares less about height as he grows older
1:16:56 - Kwon loves East Boston (little Colombia)
1:17:18 - How is Northeast for dating as an Asian guy
1:18:38 - Asian and Latin culture are pretty similar
1:20:04 - Kwon is low key a kpopmaxxer
1:20:18 - Kwonâs more k-drama than k-pop
1:21:15 - Kwonâs k-drama photo (taken by Chang)
1:22:16 - Kwonâs chef photo (taken by Chang)
1:22:26 - Story of the chef pic at Chang Retreat
1:23:23 - Answering some livestream comments
1:25:05 - Kwonâs f boi photo (taken by Chang)
1:26:44 - Kwonâs favorite photo (taken at Chang Retreat)
1:28:25 - Kwonâs good pose (taken by Chang)
1:29:16 - Kwon candid pose (taken by Chang)
1:30:30 - Kwon is low key super photogenic
1:30:45 - Photoshoot posing tips
1:31:25 - Kwan taking off while Chang brbs
1:32:49 - Kwonâs been eating for 1.5 hours LOL
1:33:40 - Chang wants Kwon to freestyle rap
1:34:35 - Kwon freestyles to livestream comments
1:38:45 - Freestyle rapping & word association is great for verbals
1:40:24 - Freestyle and improv are great for self-improvement
1:40:38 - Chang used to practice freestyle rapping in his room
1:41:28 - Chang will freestyle if he hits 100k subs
1:41:45 - Chang & Mike (dating coach) still cool
1:42:45 - Kwon is a fan of Kong from Simple Pickup
1:44:26 - Chang receives nice comment on livestream
1:45:25 - Sales experience
1:45:59 - Asians arenât good at selling themselves due to culture
1:47:00 - Last minute farewell by Kold Kwan