Garrett is an Asian American rapped based out of Boston who was also part of the Chang Retreat cohort of December 2023. We had a really awesome conversation about his journey to become a rapper, dating preferences, our experiences as Asian guys and more!
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Timestamps 0:00 - Who Is Kold Kwan 1:23 - Chang used to bboy LOL 1:50 - How Kwan transitioned from boy to rapping 2:38 - Kwan is one of few Asians in rap circle 3:30 - How Chang knows Kwan 4:48 - Kwan keeps in touch with Chang Retreat members 5:45 - Kwan’s online dating leveled up from Chang’s photos 6:25 - Asian guys tends not to see potential in themselves 7:00 - Dating is hard for Asian men 7:52 - Why Chang hosts a retreat 8:46 - Dating isn’t the only part of masculinity 9:26 - Most Asian guys just want a girlfriend 10:05 - Models by Mark Manson 11:36 - Manosphere & Red Pill 14:40 - Toxic girls & guys (you attract who you are) 16:12 - Kwan’s experience with toxic girl 17:24 - Green flag for girlfriend is healthy relationship with family 18:03 - Kwan raps about personal topics 18:45 - Balancing growth with authenticity 20:18 - Does being Asian hinder Kwan in rapping career 21:05 - What demographic of Kwan’s followers 24:12 - Kwan’s been rapping since 2010 25:34 - Chang thinks Kwan should rap about AMBW niche 26:43 - Kwan thinks it might be risky to talk about AMBW 28:06 - Chang believes AMBW rapping would be positive uplifting vibes 29:42 - Rich Brian example of going viral 30:12 - Kwan made AMBW Tik Tok 30:52 - Kwan uniquely positioned to be champion of AMBW 34:06 - Kwan concerned about the perception of this type of content 34:30 - Polarizing and getting hates is part of the process of growth 35:32 - Why Kwan should pursue AMBW content 38:33 - Kwan’s come up story matters a lot to him 39:50 - Kwan respects late bloomer rappers 40:23 - Slow vs fast growth as a rapper / content creator 43:56 - Kwan’s future project plans 44:56 - The power of social media 45:12 - Asian parents & dating black girls 47:40 - Kwan’s experience dating asian vs black girls 48:48 - Kwan had a lot of rizz during the Chang retreat 49:35 - Chang's dating coach experience 51:10 - Positive experiences led to true confidence 53:20 - Text game vs cold approach 54:35 - Online dating & flakiness 56:10 - Chang and Kwan used to be simps… 56:34 - Kwan’s heartbreak story with Colombian girl 59:22 - The problem with pedastalizing women 1:00:25 - Kwan meets Colombian girl after talking online for one year 1:01:20 - Dating younger girls 1:02:11 - Kwan’s heartbreak led to self-compassion & growth 1:03:21 - Life’s and relationships are transient 1:05:03 - Chang makes videos to help guys develop abundance mindset 1:05:33 - Asian men have a self-love problem 1:07:30 - Asian guys don't receive positive affirmations while growing up 1:08:10 - Asian guys face a lot of negative perceptions 1:08:58 - Why cold approach is OP as an Asian guy 1:10:03 - Younger generation of Asian men doing well 1:10:26 - Why Gen Z Asian guys have it easier 1:10:50 - Most older Asian can't pull of Gen Z look 1:11:21 - Kwan has nice Gen Z Asian hair 1:12:16 - If it’s too good to be true, be careful (e.g. dating in Columbia) 1:13:25 - Latinas love Asian guys 1:15:18 - Chang’s cares less about height as he grows older 1:16:56 - Kwon loves East Boston (little Colombia) 1:17:18 - How is Northeast for dating as an Asian guy 1:18:38 - Asian and Latin culture are pretty similar 1:20:04 - Kwon is low key a kpopmaxxer 1:20:18 - Kwon’s more k-drama than k-pop 1:21:15 - Kwon’s k-drama photo (taken by Chang) 1:22:16 - Kwon’s chef photo (taken by Chang) 1:22:26 - Story of the chef pic at Chang Retreat 1:23:23 - Answering some livestream comments 1:25:05 - Kwon’s f boi photo (taken by Chang) 1:26:44 - Kwon’s favorite photo (taken at Chang Retreat) 1:28:25 - Kwon’s good pose (taken by Chang) 1:29:16 - Kwon candid pose (taken by Chang) 1:30:30 - Kwon is low key super photogenic 1:30:45 - Photoshoot posing tips 1:31:25 - Kwan taking off while Chang brbs 1:32:49 - Kwon’s been eating for 1.5 hours LOL 1:33:40 - Chang wants Kwon to freestyle rap 1:34:35 - Kwon freestyles to livestream comments 1:38:45 - Freestyle rapping & word association is great for verbals 1:40:24 - Freestyle and improv are great for self-improvement 1:40:38 - Chang used to practice freestyle rapping in his room 1:41:28 - Chang will freestyle if he hits 100k subs 1:41:45 - Chang & Mike (dating coach) still cool 1:42:45 - Kwon is a fan of Kong from Simple Pickup 1:44:26 - Chang receives nice comment on livestream 1:45:25 - Sales experience 1:45:59 - Asians aren’t good at selling themselves due to culture 1:47:00 - Last minute farewell by Kold Kwan
